Relationship Contract Between Boyfriend and Girlfriend (Template)
A relationship contract between boyfriend and girlfriend is a fun, non-legal list of promises you write together: how often you text, how you handle fights, what you post, and how you make time for each other. It isn't a lease and nobody's suing anyone. Below is a free template you can copy and paste, 15 clause ideas, and a funny version for the group chat.
If you want a contract because you keep clashing over how much space versus closeness you each need, The Map shows exactly where you both stand in about three minutes. Find where you stand
What a relationship contract is (and isn't)
It is: A cute relationship contract that turns "I thought you knew" into "we literally wrote it down." It's a conversation starter dressed up as a document.
It isn't:
- A legal relationship contract agreement (those exist for adults and money stuff, very different thing)
- A way to control someone
- Something to wave in their face mid-argument
If a clause would make you feel trapped or watched, it doesn't belong. "Must share location 24/7" is not cute. "Text when you get home safe after a night out" is.
Free template you can copy
Here's a relationship contract template free to copy and paste into your notes app, a Google Doc, or handwrite on nice paper.
OUR RELATIONSHIP CONTRACT
Between: ____________ and ____________
Date: ____________
1. TEXTING
We'll text good morning or goodnight most days.
If one of us is busy, we'll say "busy, talk later" instead of disappearing.
2. TIME TOGETHER
We'll have at least one proper hangout or call a week, phones down.
3. HOW WE FIGHT
No silent treatment longer than ______ hours.
We'll say "I need a break, I'm coming back" before taking space.
No bringing up old fights to win a new one.
4. SOCIAL MEDIA
We'll ask before posting a photo of each other.
We agree on what we're okay sharing publicly.
5. FRIENDS AND SPACE
We both keep our own friends and hobbies.
Alone time isn't a sign something's wrong.
6. REASSURANCE
If one of us feels insecure, we'll say it instead of testing.
7. CHECK-INS
Once a month we'll ask: "What's one thing I could do better?"
Signed: ____________ ____________
Want a relationship contract PDF? Paste this into Google Docs or Word and export it. Done.
15 clause ideas: texting, time, fights, social media
Mix and match these relationship contract ideas. Change the wording so it sounds like you two.
Texting clauses
- "We don't leave each other on read during an argument."
- "Dry texting is allowed when one of us is tired; we'll make up for it later."
- "We'll send a heads-up before going offline for a long time (exams, shifts, family stuff)."
Time and plans
- "One date a week, even if it's free: a walk, a library study session, a call."
- "Whoever cancels plans picks the next one."
- "During exam season (finals in the US, exams or revision season in the UK), we'll support each other's study time."
Fights and repair
- "We fight the problem, not each other."
- "No breaking up mid-fight as a threat."
- "We'll say sorry for the specific thing, not 'sorry you feel that way.'"
Social media
- "No soft-launching each other without asking."
- "We don't comment on each other's posts to make a point."
- "We won't post our private arguments, even subtly."
Space and trust
- "Hanging out with friends without each other is normal and good."
- "We don't go through each other's phones."
- "If something someone else does bothers us, we'll talk about it, not stalk about it."
| Area | Example clause | Why it helps |
|---|---|---|
| Texting | "Busy, talk later" instead of vanishing | Stops overthinking |
| Time | One phone-free hangout a week | Real connection |
| Fights | Max silent treatment time | Prevents freeze-outs |
| Social media | Ask before posting | Respect and privacy |
| Space | Friends time is normal | Avoids jealousy |
Relationship contract examples by topic.
Funny relationship contract version
For the group chat, or to make your partner laugh:
OFFICIAL GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND CONTRACT (legally binding in no courts)
1. I get the last fry. Always.
2. You must laugh at my jokes, even the bad ones.
3. Hoodie stealing is permitted and encouraged.
4. If I say "I'm not hungry" you still order extra.
5. Spoilers for our show = 3 days of doing my chores.
6. You must hype my outfit before every party.
7. We do not speak of The Incident.
Signed with love and mild threats,
____________ & ____________
A relationship contract funny version is great for anniversaries or as a cute gift. Just pair it with at least one real clause.
How to write one together without it getting weird
The biggest risk is one person showing up with a full rulebook. That feels like a performance review.
- Pitch it lightly. "Saw this on TikTok, wanna make one?" works.
- Each write five clauses separately, then swap.
- Keep the overlaps, talk about the differences.
- Use "we," not "you." "We'll text when we get home" beats "You need to text me."
- Keep it to one page.
The hard part is that you might not know what you actually need. You know something feels off, like you want more texting or they want more space, but you can't put your finger on why.
The Map does that part for you. Eighteen quick taps about your person show how close you like to be and how much you worry when they go quiet. Invite them, and both dots sit on one map, so your contract can start from what you actually each need. Neither of you sees the other's answers. Find where you stand
Not sure what your needs even are? Start with the relationship needs checklist. If you want to understand each other's personalities first, love language of each zodiac sign is a fun warm-up.
When to update it
Your contract should change as you do:
- New stage: From talking stage to official, or long distance after one of you leaves for college or uni.
- After a big fight: Add the lesson.
- Every few months: Read it together and cross out what doesn't fit anymore.
Treat it like a living note, not a rulebook.
Start your contract from where you both stand
A relationship contract between boyfriend and girlfriend works best when it's built on real needs, not guesses. In about three minutes, The Map places your dot, and if you invite your person, you'll both see where you sit on one map. Then each evening you get one five-minute card to do together.
FAQ
What should be in a relationship contract?
Cover texting, time together, how you handle fights, social media and personal space. Keep each clause short and written as "we." Leave out anything that feels controlling.
Is a relationship contract legally binding?
A cute boyfriend and girlfriend contract isn't legally binding. It's a fun way to agree on expectations. Legal relationship agreements are a separate thing for adults dealing with property or money.
Where can I get a relationship contract template free?
You can copy the template above into Google Docs or your notes app for free. Export it as a PDF if you want something printable.
How do I ask my boyfriend or girlfriend to make a relationship contract?
Keep it light: "Want to make one of those relationship contracts? Could be cute." Suggest you each write five clauses first, then compare. If it feels like pressure, start with the funny version.
What are funny relationship contract ideas?
Last-fry rules, hoodie-stealing rights, spoiler penalties, and mandatory outfit hype are classics. Mix a few funny clauses with real ones so it's both cute and useful.